There is no one right way to be a writer.
Let’s start there.
I don’t care if Brandon Sanderson accidentally writes whole novels while on vacation. I don’t care if Stephen King gets up early to write. I don’t care if you know someone who writes 2,000 words every day.
They aren’t you.
The important thing if you want to be a writer is that you write. But it doesn’t matter how much, how often, or in what way. Those are details that you get to sort out for yourself based on your needs and goals.
So how do you figure that out? Well, trial and error, really.
Let’s try a different scenario than writing, another place where habits matter: dentistry.
I had a great dentist growing up. He was talented and had a great bedside manner. The man seemed to get nearly everything right the first time. Like a lot of kids, I had trouble building a reliable brushing routine. Some dentists might simply say to brush twice a day and don’t forget to floss, take their fee from insurance, and call it a day–after all, if the patient won’t brush, you’ll get more business from the cavities, and you can’t be called to account because you did remind the patient of best practice (I did have such a dentist briefly and I hated him). No, not this guy. He took the time to figure out what the barriers were and try to find solutions.

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The toothpaste made me cough and gag, I told him. I couldn’t handle the mint flavors toothpastes use. I’m sure it was more complicated than that, but that’s what I told him, and he listened. So he told me “Ok, don’t use toothpaste. The brushing is more important.” He gave me permission to try things that were less than perfect, as long as they were in the direction of our goals. He talked to my parents about getting non-mint toothpastes. We worked on it over years.
Eventually, I built up a tolerance to normal toothpaste, but mostly I needed that permission to not be perfect. Otherwise it was going to be all or nothing, and all was too hard, so it was going to be nothing. Today, of all my habits intended to make my life better, brushing my teeth is actually my most consistent habit. It’s not perfect, but it does the job. Because my dentist and I found ways to make it work for me.
Your writing routine is the same as my brushing routine. It’s about finding something that strikes a balance and you can sustain.
As most of my readers will know, every November since 2005 I’ve done and won National Novel Writing Month. Like clockwork, I churn out my 50k words each November. You can set your calendar by it. Even through the worst of times, I’ve made that word goal. Funerals, trauma, pandemic, dissertation, whatever: that word count is sacred. And I’m pretty sure I’ll keep doing it, no matter what happens to the NaNoWriMo organization in its current chaos.
But it’s not sustainable.
Come December 1st, I’m done.
On rare occasions, such as 2020, I was able to finish out the plot by writing at a much slower pace after, but usually the NaNo draft gets put in a backed-up file folder and ignored for a while, and I take a break from writing.
Turns out 1,667 words per day isn’t the right rate for me for more than a month when I have other obligations like a day job (or three). I can do it for a bit, but it’s draining.

What about a lower word goal? I’ve tried challenging myself to write 500 words per day. Seems reasonable. During November, that’s literally ten minutes of work for me. So why can’t I do it consistently?
I honestly don’t know. My brain just doesn’t handle it well over time. Maybe your brain does. If it does, try that.
Ok, what about time? I’ve tried challenging myself to write for 15 minutes per day. That’s not much investment. That seems doable.
But that didn’t work either. Maybe it will for you? It didn’t work for me.
Ok, maybe what I needed was a general word goal I could spread out: a deadline and a final word count, the way I do it in November.
Didn’t work. Didn’t account for the complexities of my writing processes when I’m working on a draft after the first.
And that was the key. The reason November works is because it’s a fresh first draft every time! All of these approaches, all of the shame I was giving myself because “I can do it in November so why can’t I do it now?”, were not accounting for my actual writing process.
Yes, I do my first drafts in a crazy November flurry, and that works for me, because my first drafts are discovery drafts. I never need to delete anything because they’re just rehearsals. They’re throwing ideas out and seeing what I like. They’re brainstorming.
But my writing process for later drafts is messy. It’s a lot of two steps forward and one step back. It requires being able to walk away from the draft at any point to reconsider something and let it “incubate.” Minimum word counts, minimum time in chair, even overall word goals weren’t letting the project grow the way it needs to. They weren’t accounting for the fact that, to bring back the dentistry metaphor, sometimes I gag on the toothpaste and need to spit it out mid-brush. They weren’t letting me be me.
I know that making regular social commitments about writing helps me. Streaming on Twitch was working for a while, except then my work schedule became too irregular for me to keep that up reliably (I’m working on it). I don’t currently have local friends to meet up with regularly, although I’m working on that too.
I’m not going to say I have a perfect solution, or even a perfect solution for me. I know some things that help, though, and I can say that for the last month I’ve built a habit that I’ve been able to say is comfortable and working for now.
But here’s what has been working for me for the past month: I’ve promised myself to write every day. To “non-zero” as I would say in November. I write down that progress. Even if I’m going to delete it the next day (which has happened a few times in the past month), I’m writing down what I do that day.

I have some theories about why this works.
First, the fact that I’m writing it down on a calendar where I can see it (and so can my husband, giving me some social accountability) means that I have the satisfaction of seeing my progress, even if the word count on the actual draft might go down because I delete a scene.
Second, it gives me freedom. There are a couple days when I was too sick to focus. I wrote a bit on those days, but I knew what I wrote wasn’t worth much and I didn’t have to force it for an arbitrary word goal. I just had to try to think about it so it stayed fresh. I can delete stuff but the progress is still recorded. I can take that one step back without fearing for those two steps forward.
Third, it stays fresh. I hate picking up a cold project. It takes me a while to get re-oriented to the project. I’ve discovered that I have to work on my project about every other day or more to keep it fresh in my mind. I’ve also discovered that it helps my mental health to stay immersed in the project, because when my brain starts to go in depression spirals, I can rehearse fictional conversations for fictional people rather than beat myself up mentally. It gives me something to think about when my brain needs something to chew, but I can’t do that if I’m not exposing myself to the project continually.
Fourth, I can take breaks. If all I have in me is a 300 word scene today, that’s ok. I know in my process, taking breaks matters. I need to “incubate” my ideas and rehearse scenes in my head before I can write them. I need naps between writing sessions. There’s science behind this, but that’s a discussion for another day.
Fifth, it’s more sustainable. The expectations on me are flexible. All movement is good movement. I tend to give up on projects if I can’t make satisfactory progress and they aren’t in some way obligated to someone else. But this is a promise to myself I can keep. Sure, I missed one day this month. Oops. I hate that zero, even though I know why it’s there (I was so busy that day that I didn’t even turn on my computer). But that is actually motivating me to do better, because instead of meaning I’m behind on my overall goal, it just means I made a mistake one day and I can do better in the future. My best is good enough, no matter what my best is that day.
But most importantly I know it’s working for me for now.
So what is the right writing routine for you? I don’t know. But I do know that it’s going to take an honest assessment of what your motivations, strengths, and weaknesses are as a writer. For me the biggest thing, just like the toothbrushing, is to do any writing, even if it’s not ideal. It’s also important for my process that I do it consistently, because I hate picking up cold projects. I need to have my writing project in mind at least every other day or I’ll lose momentum.

















